Your Camino is particular to you. A common saying on the way is, “You have to do your own Camino.” Mine could be pictured as a ven diagram of three equal overlapping circles, labeled ‘spiritual quest’, ‘adventure’ and ‘expanding the boundaries’.
Why did I do it? I just knew I absolutely had to do it – I didn’t know why.
The other realization I had about the Camino is – “It’s all about the people!”
First and most important are family and friends.
For me, this was my bedrock – feeling connection and support from my family and my friends was more important than any of you could imagine. I kept finding myself singing the Beatle’s song, “I get by with a little help from my friends.” And to Kenneth especially – thank you for letting me fly!
Second to this, were my companions on the way. I started on my own – trusting help would be at hand if I needed it -and it was!
(On the Camino the normal socio-economic barriers don’t exist – nobody cares what work you do, if you are rich or poor, old or young – the only thing that matters is your openness of heart.)
When I reached Tomar, I was very apprehensive about the next stage, which was 30 kilometers with no stopping places. That was when my merry band of pilgrims stepped in – in the form of Will, Sam, Nola, Janae, Johanna and Eli (who walked with us for only one day but nevertheless touched our hearts). First, they invited me to join them for the dinner – delicious but even more memorable for the camaraderie. Then Nola said, “We are leaving tomorrow morning at 5:15. Are you coming?” How could I refuse? The banter and good humor got me up the hills. Laughter and conversation helped the time pass. And at the end of the day, Will, who had finished first, walked back to meet us and carried my backpack! For the next several days we encouraged each other on, stayed together in cheap albergues and covered distances I would never have made on my own.
Then Porto, the half way point – and Hamid’s kindness allowing me to gather my strength.
The day after Porto I stopped at a cafe – and five minutes later, who should walk in but my second merry band of pilgrims! – in the form of Martin from Croatia and four very ebullient Italians – Giulio and Martina, Nicola and Martina. And that evening we were joined by Cristina, also from Italy. The two Martinas regaled us with Italian church songs, enlivened to suit the occasion! And again, the laughter and camaraderie helped the miles pass.
We walked together for a couple of days – and then Nicola, Martina and Martin went on ahead, followed a couple of days later by Giulio and Martina (but not before together cooking a delicious pasta dinner and together weathering the news that the albergue was full). Cristina and I were joined by Johanna, from my first merry band of pilgrims, and her friend, Cem. I had touched base with Johanna in Porto and, in an act of true friendship, she had given me her Camino guide – I had destroyed mine by clutching it too tightly for two weeks. And Cem,noticing that my backpack strap was torn, searched for supplies in a hardware store and mended it for me.
In the final few days, we went slightly different routes, so I finished as I had started – on my own – but, in true Camino fashion, we all met randomly in Santiago Cathedral.
And then Jean and Mano in Finisterre – (see tomorrow’s blog)
The other phrase that you hear over and over when people describe the Camino is, “the kindness of strangers”. I don’t even know where to begin – but here are a few examples.
There were the workmen who gesticulated wildly at us when we were blithely forging ahead in the wrong direction. One time in particular – I was walking alone and had missed an arrow – a workman, driving past, stopped his van and gestured that I needed to go back – and watched to check I was going the right way – he was not convinced, so he parked his van, got out and walked me back to the turn I had missed! Then there were the shopkeepers who slipped an extra morsel of bread or cake into my bag. And, maybe most memorable, the myriads of people along the way who wished us “Bom Viaje”(in Portugal) or “Buen Camino”(in Spain) and really meant it. And, very precious to me, were the conversations along the way with some of the people I passed. In Spain I would understand about half of what they were saying. In Portugal, though I didn’t understand a word, I got the meaning. One lady in a little village stopped for a very animated conversation – the gist was “Well done you for walking to Santiago. I will pray for you. And please pray for me when you get there.” And other times, my “Bom Dia” would elicit a torrent of Portuguese. Again, I would get the basic idea – which, depending on the circumstance, could be translated as, “It’s very hot today, isn’t it” or “Carry on around the corner and then follow the arrows” or “Your friends are at the next cafe”. They knew I wished them well, I knew they wished me well, and we all left feeling happy.